The Depressed Underachiever

Before I started college, I was invited to join the honor’s program. I only ended up taking one honor’s class though. Why? Because I knew that the work load would get to me. I knew I would be able to do it but I knew with how easily I get stressed, I would not be able handle it.

The same thing applies to the rest of my life. I am afraid to go back to school or take on more responsibility at work because I am afraid that I will get overwhelmed and then shut down. I know it makes me look like an underachiever. I know it makes me look lazy. I actually graduated as valedictorian from my high school and I graduated Summa cum Laude from college. But here I am doing as little as possible because I know it is better for me.

We live in a world that stresses the importance of achievement and advancement but what happens to the people that just cannot handle the world? I read this blog yesterday about someone that had a great job but just could not handle it and ended up moving back with her parents. A bright person succumbs to the demands of the world. And another blog I read talks about a guy who is happy working as a cleaning person (nothing against custodians because I used to be one) because there is not much pressure.

The world just expects so much from us and some (like me) just cannot take it. Something has to give, and unfortunately for me, it is my mental status.

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A World That Encourages Stress and Depression

As a young kid, we are told to dream big and believe that we can accomplish everything we want. Unfortunately, that is not life though. We live in a very difficult world. There are just so many stressors that block our chances of every truly achieving our dreams. Once our dreams are smashed, depression become rampant.

Our world heavily stresses academics. Without a good education, a person will not be able to get a job and be successful in life. The academic stress starts early in life. Kids are expected to get good grades in high school so that they can get in to a good college. High school students are expected to start taking college classes in high school so that they will practically have their first year done when they arrive at college. Once at college, they are expected to study hard so that they will get hired once out of school. At college, students are expected to get several majors or minors so that they will be well rounded and beat the rest of the competition when applying for jobs.

Also while in school, students in both high school and college are expected to be very involved. Colleges are looking for students that were involved in high school and employers are looking for students that were involved in college. As if the students were not stressed enough over their classes, they are now expected to add more to their plate. It is no wonder so many young people are suffering from depression. The world expects so much from them but does not give them the time to do it all.

The world becomes all the more stressful after school. With today’s economy, it is difficult to find a job. There is just so much competition. It does not matter any more about how well a person did at college. There are just too many people all vying for the same position. And unfortunately, there are not enough jobs to go around. Depression becomes a part of life again as a person realizes that they are not living according to their dreams.

Once a person finally finds a job, they are set to live out the stress of the job as well as adult life. Again, there are so many expectations that their is not enough time in the day to get it all done. A person ends up giving up because of the impractically of it all. It is better to stay in bed than to deal with the world. And if that were not enough, there are other contributors to the stress.

There is the pressure of the world to belong and fit in. This stress starts early on. The world expects us to dress and act a certain way. We are expected to have certain possessions. Without them, a person will never truly belong. A person begins to realize that they do not have any friends which leads to depression.

And in case all of that were not enough to drag a person down, there is the cruelty of the world. We are quick to blame but slow to forgive. Mistakes can lead a person to be fired or sent to jail. We are all quick to point fingers without truly knowing the real story. A person has to be careful not to ever mess up because one mistake can cost them dearly. With a blink, a person can find themselves in the middle of a scandal and their life ruined.

Is it any wonder that our world is full of depression? Is it any wonder that people would rather commit suicide than continue to live with a world that encourages stress and depression? We are told from the beginning to dream big, but in actuality, dreams differ greatly from reality.